Really need help - Page 2

Beaker · 05-11-2009, 11:18 PM

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Originally Posted by seanflannery

OK, lets cut this to the chase.

My home life is lalalalalalalala. My mum's really ill and dad's really annoyed and stressed out. He just takes it out on me. I just want to get away from it all.

I also have a puppy, 7 months-old.

I'm planning to run away. Don't worry - I've got another house somewhere. I'm planning to take my dog, but I think I need to get an adult to go with me. First capital connect's the train company. Could someone tell me? My parental controls blocked the site

I know dogs can go, must be on a lead.

Thanks for any help

Everyone goes through a hard time but I am sure things will get better for you. Running away isn't the answer you can't run from your problems.

MaschPotato · 06-11-2009, 12:29 AM

So your running away from an ill mother and stressed father, which will make them more ill and stressed.

sims3chris · 06-11-2009, 12:37 AM

I'd say dont leave! there is no use in running from problems!

Battleships · 06-11-2009, 04:52 PM

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Originally Posted by MaschPotato

So your running away from an ill mother and stressed father, which will make them more ill and stressed.

Exactly.

PointlessOink · 06-11-2009, 06:02 PM

No age limit on traveling alone by train, but the police will just drag you back.

coolhead33 · 06-11-2009, 06:21 PM

Running away only makes things worse.

Problems can be solved 5 times out of 10 and this is one that can most likely be solved.

You just have to do something to make your Dad see that he isn't helping the situation.

seanflannery · 06-11-2009, 08:51 PM

I wasn't gonna run anyway for like, forever. Just we have this safe place, hardly any crime etc. I just really need to rest for a couple of days, then maybe I can help my Mum/Dog more.

I just decided not to run away, but I really need somewhere just to get away from it. I want to help, but by 6pm I'm snoring on the sofa.

Scarffo · 06-11-2009, 09:05 PM

You need to get over yourself. You've got a house and food on the table, just deal with it. Stop being so pathetic.

Walkers24 · 06-11-2009, 09:15 PM

I really wouldn't recommend running away. Chances are your Dad will get even more stressed, and it won't help your Mum. Talk to an adult about it.

Cazzy373 · 06-11-2009, 10:03 PM

Listen to my advice. It's clearly the best.

SunburnedPenguin · 06-11-2009, 10:15 PM

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Originally Posted by seanflannery

I wasn't gonna run anyway for like, forever. Just we have this safe place, hardly any crime etc. I just really need to rest for a couple of days, then maybe I can help my Mum/Dog more.

I just decided not to run away, but I really need somewhere just to get away from it. I want to help, but by 6pm I'm snoring on the sofa.

You shouldnt be considering running away atall. But you should talk to someone, perhaps an uncle or family friend who knows the situation? It cant be easy for you, and I understand the pressure you must be under - but you need to put your parents first for a while. Thats not an easy transition to make when you are used to being the priority in the family as children are, but they need you.

Talk to someone, maybe even just getting it all off your chest face to face with someone will release some of the pressure, but please dont run away xx

PinkFlower3p · 06-11-2009, 10:24 PM

Like Penguin said above you shouldn't even consider running away.
If your mum is ill and your dad is stressed, you should be trying to help your dad, not creating more stress for him to deal with.

I'm sure as a family unit you can work through your problems together. It's probably very tough for you at this time but you need to keep your chin up and work through it. I hope everything goes ok for you, but just so you know there are always people you can talk too who are there to help.

Jjovers · 06-11-2009, 10:34 PM

Running away won't solve anything mate. :/

seanflannery · 07-11-2009, 08:48 AM

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Originally Posted by SunburnedPenguin

You shouldnt be considering running away atall. But you should talk to someone, perhaps an uncle or family friend who knows the situation? It cant be easy for you, and I understand the pressure you must be under - but you need to put your parents first for a while. Thats not an easy transition to make when you are used to being the priority in the family as children are, but they need you.

Talk to someone, maybe even just getting it all off your chest face to face with someone will release some of the pressure, but please dont run away xx

No family live near us nor we see often

I try to put them first, I really do. Morning get them breakfast in bed most days, then cook dinner, take dog on two walks, do 2 hours of homework, then crash at around 6pm. I just don't want to get so tired that I just can't get up.

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Originally Posted by Scarffo

You need to get over yourself. You've got a house and food on the table, just deal with it. Stop being so pathetic.

So the fact I HAVE to get up at 5:30am and crash on the sofa at 6pm isn't a problem?

Liam · 07-11-2009, 12:58 PM

It's not a problem at all.

seanflannery · 07-11-2009, 01:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Liam

It's not a problem at all.

When I have lots of stuff to do after 6pm, and then finally get to be dabout 2am it's a problem.

Liam · 07-11-2009, 01:22 PM

So why do you go asleep at 6pm?

MFC_LukeCarter · 07-11-2009, 01:30 PM

I'd run away with you.

SunburnedPenguin · 07-11-2009, 02:44 PM

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Originally Posted by seanflannery

No family live near us nor we see often

I try to put them first, I really do. Morning get them breakfast in bed most days, then cook dinner, take dog on two walks, do 2 hours of homework, then crash at around 6pm. I just don't want to get so tired that I just can't get up.

So the fact I HAVE to get up at 5:30am and crash on the sofa at 6pm isn't a problem?

I would wonder why your Dad isnt cooking dinner. You should be helping out but not to the point where it could effect your school work etc.

Making breakfast, dinner and walking the dogs doesnt sound like a lot tbh, are you doing housework aswell? Or does your Dad do all that?

Try this site, it might give you some perspective and show you what support is available if you need it

YCI - Homepage

tevez. · 07-11-2009, 02:54 PM

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Originally Posted by Cazzy373

Sean, if your mum is really ill then it's understandable that your dad is really stressed out, he is probably worrying about money and looking after the house and chores as well as being upset and worried for your mum.

I think you need to help him out more in looking after your mum and the house, and then maybe he won't take things out on you as much.

I understand that it's hard for you right now, but running away really won't solve anything. You won't be safe, and you'll put your mum and dad under even more stress and that really isn't very fair, is it?

Just talk to your dad and tell him how you are feeling and that you'll help out around the house and ask him to lay off you a bit as you are suffering too.

Hope you feel better soon, and your mum gets better.

^ This

MFC_LukeCarter · 07-11-2009, 02:56 PM

Get yourself into a gang mate, they will protect you and provide you with money as well.

seanflannery · 07-11-2009, 03:10 PM

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Originally Posted by SunburnedPenguin

I would wonder why your Dad isnt cooking dinner. You should be helping out but not to the point where it could effect your school work etc.

Making breakfast, dinner and walking the dogs doesnt sound like a lot tbh, are you doing housework aswell? Or does your Dad do all that?

Try this site, it might give you some perspective and show you what support is available if you need it

YCI - Homepage

I make breakfast at weekends, and do dinner about half the time. I do about half of the housework, get MUm some biscuits, tea, etc. And walk the dog twice, half an hour each. It's not really afffecting my schoolwork, more I can't enjoy myself at all.

Thanks

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Originally Posted by Liam

So why do you go asleep at 6pm?

Because I can't physically stay awake. I'm just so tired.

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Originally Posted by MFC_LukeCarter

Get yourself into a gang mate, they will protect you and provide you with money as well.

Nnnnaaaahhhh

Daveios · 07-11-2009, 03:12 PM

So you're saying running away is an answer?
I know if my mum was ill i'd be right by her side giving her as much help and support as I could possibly give.
I know you're only 14, but that's not the point. You run away now, later on in life could you really live with yourself knowing you left your ill mother behind?

forestfcfan · 07-11-2009, 05:51 PM

You decided what your doing yet? Or was this thread just to get attention?

seanflannery · 07-11-2009, 06:25 PM

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Originally Posted by forestfcfan

You decided what your doing yet? Or was this thread just to get attention?

I'm not running away. I just can't think of anywhere to get some rest.

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Originally Posted by Daveios

So you're saying running away is an answer?
I know if my mum was ill i'd be right by her side giving her as much help and support as I could possibly give.
I know you're only 14, but that's not the point. You run away now, later on in life could you really live with yourself knowing you left your ill mother behind?

I AM giving her as much help and support as I can. But I'm just so tired, get about 4 hours sleep, and the only fun I get is half an hour with the puppy at the park.

06-11-2009, 12:37 AM	#28 (permalink)
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coolhead33 Forum Guru Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: What Location? Posts: 2,365	Running away only makes things worse. Problems can be solved 5 times out of 10 and this is one that can most likely be solved. You just have to do something to make your Dad see that he isn't helping the situation. __________________ Thanks for the sig Doc.

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Daveios Forum Junkie Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Málaga Age: 17 Gender: Male Posts: 2,887 Blog Entries: 1	So you're saying running away is an answer? I know if my mum was ill i'd be right by her side giving her as much help and support as I could possibly give. I know you're only 14, but that's not the point. You run away now, later on in life could you really live with yourself knowing you left your ill mother behind? __________________

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